What happens is, while the baby is gaining weight, you are losing weight at a different pace. The weight you are losing is from your own fat deposits, not from taking food or fat from the baby. You may find that if you take on a healthy pregnancy nutrition regimine, cutting out extra fats and empty calories, and adopting a moderate exercise routine, you could lose weight during early pregnancy involuntarily.The weight loss would be a kind of side-effect of being healthy to begin with. At some point, the rapid weight gain you would have in later pregnancy will happen, but through the first several months, you would have lost some, so your overall weight gain could be zero. But you MUST do this with a doctor's supervision and reccommendation, because you want to make sure you & your baby are getting nutrition.

The main thing is that many of these ignorant women who say that you will be taking food from the baby (not true… in most cases, the baby gets dibs on every bit of nutrition you get) and especially those who claim that losing weight during pregnancy will cause a stillbirth (these women should not be allowed to breed, nor should they be allowed to socialize or otherwise converse with people who ARE allowed to breed) have no clue whatsoever what they are talking about, and are using their lack of knowledge as a way to judge others.

Also, most women can safely lose or maintain weight through the first trimester, with the close supervision of a doctor. "Eating for two" is not exactly what it implies, and for a lot of women, a lot of the weight put on in the first trimester has nothing really to do with the pregnancy. As long as you are getting lots of good nutrition, what happens on the scales doesn't matter that much until later on.

And not gaining a lot of weight does not mean that you will defiantely have a teeny baby. My sister gained a lot less than I did on both pregnancies, and she had these monstrously humongo babies (almost 11 pounders) and I had little six-pound babies.

It's weird how the whole weight issue happens.

Anyway, just talk with your doctor, tell him you're wanting to get pregnant, but you also want to lose some of your weight and can he make any suggestions on how to do both safely?
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WHERE DOES THE WEIGHT GO?
Where Weight in Pounds
Baby 7 1/2 – 8 1/2
Placenta 1 – 3
Amniotic Fluid 2
Uterus 2 – 2 1/2
Increased Body Fluid, Blood 3 1/2 – 7
Increased Maternal Fat Stores, Breast Tissue 10 – 12

Good luck.
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oh and try to avoid sugar as much as possible
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